SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!
Q. I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...
A. 2 April 2008: Wow well done Andrew, and all the other aunts, uncles and the anons but we couldn't have hit that mark without our lovely visitors, keep it up!!!!!!!!!!!!! CharmedOne xxx... (read in full...)
Keep the baby for me or abortion to make him happy?
Q. I'm a 23 year old female and I am pregnant. Doesn't seem like a big deal but the guy that I'm pregnant by doesn't want me to have to baby because he says we should wait and because he's not ready. He has tried EVERYTHING to make me have a abortion: ...
A. 18 March 2008: Let me clear this up first was the baby planned? if not that is no excuse for an abortion i myself do not believe it sounds like you have made your mind up about keeping the baby at the end of the day your the one who will be carrying the baby for ... (read in full...)
Could his smoking weed be contributing to the fact I'm not falling pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 years now we have always had unprotected sex. I have never been pregnant. He always smokes weed, do you think that has something to do with it?...
A. 18 March 2008: Yes hunnie my bf and me used to smoke it and we are trying for a baby we came off the stuff 2 months and haven't gone back since also it affects the energy levels making you feel more tired it also gives a temper so there is another reason for your ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and unable to sleep! Any relaxation tips?
Q. I found out on Friday that i am pregnant, which my partner and i am very happy about.:-) The thing is, i havent been able to sleep properly for the past 3 nights. This is obviously cos im thinking about being pregnant, but i dont want to car...
A. 17 March 2008: Firstly i would like to congratulate on your pregnancy!!!!! I agree with the other aunts that have answered try a warm bath maybe light some candles and just have a nice long soak try a bit of reading if you read of course, have a milky drink and ... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 13 March 2008: Is this question a joke of some kind? NO YOU CANNOT GET PREGNANT FROM SWALLOWING!!!!!!!! if you could women must be some kind of alien of some form lol there is a big difference from your stomach to your womb if that is your age seriously you should ... (read in full...)
Does our ages and age difference count?
Q. hello everyone, i really need help. i'm 15 and there's a friend who lives on my street, i have knew him since i was about 6. (he is 13 now by the way so i'm 2 years older). we both fancy eachother. do you think it would be right for us to have sex ...
A. 13 March 2008: What is the big rush to have sex anyway? ur 15 and he's only 13 your both under legal age of consent girls and boys are maturing more quicker than before now just because you feel ready doesn't mean you are especially the boy how would both of your ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my boyfriend will beat me!
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend Steve for a year now. The thing is, he has troule erecting. He is always watching porn, and I am anorexic, which he finds extremely sexy. Also last year, Dan his friend raped me. I didn't tell Steve as I know he ...
A. 12 March 2008: Why are you even in this relationship sweetie? Your bf doesn't give a f***k about you in the slighest. Your anorexic and he finds tht sexy?!!!! he should be trying to help you have you told an adult about the rape? if not do it today and get that ... (read in full...)
Should we try to repair the relationship or are we prolonging the hurt?
Q. I am disgusted at myself for what I am about to tell say. A few months ago, i cheated on my boyfriend of 2 years. He found out after I left texts on my phone when I got drunk at a work function and he found them. We fought for ages but eventual...
A. 12 March 2008: I think you have answered your own question here sweetie your bf obviously loves you very much if he can see how sorry you are you have to understand though that the trust has to be built back however long it takes if you can get through that you ... (read in full...)
I've felt intense waves of pleasure...did I have an orgasm?
Q. I'm 17 years old and female and my girlfriend is currently living interstate. Recently I've been experimenting with masturbation whilst text messaging her, but up until a few days ago I felt barely any pleasure. However the last few times after a ...
A. 12 March 2008: it sounds like one hunnie ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and PREGANANT!!!
Q. it all happened 1 week ago i was round my bfs freinds house and there were no adults so everyone started having sex and so me and my bf did to but he forgot to use a condom and now im pregnant should i get an abortion or not???...
A. 12 March 2008: First things first it is far to early to tell if you are pregnant secondly WHERE THE HELL WERE THE ADULTS IN THAT HOUSE? jesus you are only 12 years old you are still a kid in everyone's eyes. What was an orgy? you cannot FORGET to put a condom or ... (read in full...)
He always has porn on when he makes love to me...
Q. I was sexually abused as a child and as a result I have problems in bed. I have had therapy on and off for years. I think I am doing better, but my partner tells me I am not, he has told me I am boring in bed and if it wasn't for porn he would not ...
A. 9 March 2008: You say you were abused as a child and your partner turns around and says your boring in bed!!! how heartless is he? Well done for getting the help you and well done for doing better what you need is a partner who will care for you and help you ... (read in full...)
He's having an affair with another woman, and we are all sharing the same house. Does he love me?
Q. hello dear cupid, i just want to know whether my partner loves me or not because he's divorced and 20 years older than me, i'm just 22 he's also having an affair with another woman, keeping both of us in the same house, i just want to know whether ...
A. 7 March 2008: I couldnt quite believe this question when i first read it. Let me get this straight he is your bf but yet he is having an affair with another woman who lives in the same house as you and yet you still sleep with him? Y hunnie u are worth far more ... (read in full...)
I am almost 9 months pregnant and caught my husband cheating with text sex...
Q. I am nearly nine months' pregnant and caught my husband cheating with text sex. We've been together eight years and married for nearly five. He's 10 years younger hadn't had any serious relationships before me and wants to live by himself but still ...
A. 7 March 2008: Is this guy for real hun?I mean really ur nearly nine months pregnant with his child and he cheats he is a loser and pathetic and you and your baby are far better of without him it will save you a lot of stress that you do not need at all leave this ... (read in full...)
Is Sex in a relationship important?
Q. I was wondering this because recently my girlfriend said she wanted to wait until marriage (which is fine by me I guess) I just didn't know if that included all types of sex or sexual contact....
A. 4 March 2008: Sex is important but it is NOT essential you need to find out whether she means full on sex or everything, if so you need to sort some other way of being close respect her decision what ever she has made don't pressure into breaking her pledge as ... (read in full...)
Do younger women really ever go for older guys say 15 to 20 years older?
Q. Do younger women really ever go for older guys say 15 to 20 years older? I am interested in some real life occurances that worked out. Thanks for inputs....
A. 29 February 2008: I'm 19, 20 in june and engaged to a 36 year old and have a son together and we are still going strong as far as i'm concerned age is just a number if 2 people are truly happy together then they won't let the difference affect them... (read in full...)
How can I react if my friend is pregant??
Q. Hey. One of my best friends thinks she could be pregnant, and she's been getting bad stomach pains for the last three days... I'm going to town with her at the weekend and we are going to get a pregnancy test. I'm worried about how to react if she ...
A. 29 February 2008: Just show her that you are there no matter what the test says if she is pregnant she needs to get to a doc and as soon as possible especially if she is having stomach pains just give her lots of support and respect what ever decision she makes hope ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and I am afraid of my 54 yr old Therepist
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I've been really sad for quite a long time so my Mom got me to talk to a counseller. I've been seeing him for a couple months now and yesterday when I saw him I felt really uncomfortable. So he's 54 and I'm only 13. I was ...
A. 1 February 2008: You need to tell your mum right away tell her what you have posted on here and see if you can find another therapist if feel that uncomfortable around him if ind that talking to the same sex helps me open up more so try and get a female one hope ... (read in full...)
I'm undecided - should I give in to my brother's urges and have sex with him?
Q. My brother trying to seduce me. He's been trying for a long time, from time to time he was making a move on me, but now I think he's serious. When we were in early teens (13-15) we already had a kind of sexual relationship with him - we've been tou...
A. 1 February 2008: NO NO NO NO!!!!!!! He is your brother for gods sake i really hope this a joke question but if not you and brother need some serious help how dare he film you while your having sex with your b/f that is sick and perverted hope this helped also it has ... (read in full...)
How can I have sex with other girls without hurting my girlfriend?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been dateing for 7 mounths now and the frist couple day of our relationship she took my virginity and for the past 4 or 5 mounths i wanted to experience it with other girls but with out hurting her can sombody please help ...
A. 1 February 2008: There is no possible way to sleep with other girls without hurting your girlfriend if you have an urge to sleep with other do the right and end it with your g/f first it's not fair on her what so ever you need to decide what you want to do and who ... (read in full...)
19 years old...is sex with my 16 yo gf wrong??
Q. I am an 19 year old and im currently in a relationship with a 16 year old girl. I am in madly in love with her and i have never felt this way about anyone else. I've been with her for over 6 months now and we are ready for sex, but im not sure whe...
A. 1 February 2008: Well seeing as you live in the U.K no it's not wrong 16 is the legal age of consent so you are safe just enjoy it while your your young hope this helped
CharmedOne xx... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 31 January 2008: i'm not surprised she hates you now i certainly would. She asked you for advice thinking she could trust you and you turn around and that to her, the morning after pill IS NOT ABORTION it prevents unwanted pregnancy there is nothing really you can ... (read in full...)
Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?
Q. i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...
A. 31 January 2008: No no no!!!!! just because your friends are doing it doesn't mean you have to do it wait until your in a stable and loving relationship also there is a risk of herpes etc i'm sorry to say that you are better off without these 'friends' of yours if ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant or not
Q. Hiya all. I wrote a question bck in November 2007 reference to me thinking i was pregnant. Anyway i had my period shortly after but it was very light and only lasted 2 days same as the following night now i shall fast forward to this month i am now...
A. 24 January 2008: Hey just giving you an update on my situation i started bleeding very heavy and had stomach pains anyway i went to the docs today and they told me i have had a miscarriage but very early i was just over 6 weeks gone thank you for all your advice xx... (read in full...)
Just want to tell everyone and the whole world....I'M IN LOVE!!
Q. im in love wooooooo! im aware this isnt a question but i wanted to tell the world =]...
A. 23 January 2008: Congrats hun it's nice to hear people are so happy there is nothing like love, it's the best thing ever may you have all the hapiness you derserve and continues for many many years to come xx... (read in full...)
He keeps touching me inappropriately. What should I do?
Q. I am 13 year old girl. This boy in my class has been flirting with me ever since school has started. The thing is, he is confusing because he's flirty and then he gets gross with me. I told my mom and the princible at my school what he has done to ...
A. 23 January 2008: Keep away from him if possible if he starts doing it again report him once again to your principle and your mom then if need be get the police involved and inform his parents if you haven't done so this lad has no right to violate you like he is ... (read in full...)
Mom caught me smoking! How can I get her trust again?
Q. hey, well this is a bit long but here goes.. ive got into a bit of trouble with my mum + step dad.. i have a 16 year old bf (to be 17 in march) + im 13 (14 in feb) my parents think hes getting me into smokin, drinkin, drugs + sex but hes not. i ...
A. 23 January 2008: I agree with the other posters u need to apoligize to your mum and tell her you realise you made a mistake and PROMISE that you will not do it again she will learn to trust you again in time it will take time but if your honest about everything you ... (read in full...)
I'm eleven and want to have sex but worried about becoming pregnant. What does first time sex feel like?
Q. hi my boyfreind and i have dicided that we really love each other and have decided to have sex i am only 11.. i feel confident but i really dont know what to expect .. im also scared that i wont put the comdom on him properly and i will become preg...
A. 23 January 2008: Please hunni don't do it you may feel ready but your are not emotionally your are still a child. sexual intercourse is something to be done when your in a stable loving relationship, same as your virginity that should only be giving to someone ... (read in full...)
Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 23 January 2008: I agree with all the other posters this man needs to be stopped and today phone the police and get reported it's totally unacceptable and perverted you say you have 5 kids if you won't do it for you do it for your kids please hunnie think of your ... (read in full...)
Worried my gf's good looks will go down the tolilet! How do I tell her this?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my girlfriend now for about 9 months, when we 1st met, she blew me away- nice personality, beautiful looks, a great smile and a lovely body. She has just started using the pill, I said I would use condoms but she wants to use ...
A. 16 January 2008: Can i just say one thing GET OVER YOURSELF god so what she eats more than women don't stay young and good looking forever or are you from a different planet? What happens if you decide to have a baby together she's gonna change. i really don't know ... (read in full...)
Where best to propose? Paris or restaurant on Valentine's day?
Q. I can't decide which of the two events I should use to propose to my girl friend. I originally planned to propose to her on valentine's day in the same Italian restaurant we had our first date. I have the ring and I have made arrangement at the ...
A. 13 January 2008: I agree with the first poster Paris is THE romantic city i could possible think of plus as the first poster says it would be more of a surprise for her all i have to say is good luck and big congrats in advance the poster got it on spot on keep us ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity?
Q. i am 14 along with my boyfriend of 4 weeks. My boyfriend is not a virgin and lost it with a girlfriend of 5 months. i know that he had it very young and i have told him that i dont really mind. (he was worried that i would) i am still a virgin and i ...
A. 9 January 2008: i think you have answered the question ur self hun. Ur not sure at all this lad must care and love you if he is cool with you waiting so if i were you hun i would wait cos ur not ready at all people always panick when it comes to their first time ... (read in full...)
Is clingfilm an adequate birth control method?
Q. Is it good to use plastic wrap as protection for intercorse?...
A. 9 January 2008: is this question a joke? no? okay then, why r you even having sex anyway? if clingfilm was adequate for a birth contrl method millios of women would be doing it, but the r not so that has to say no to that. if ur hell bent on having sex try using ... (read in full...)
The Salty Coffee....a love story I read about.
Q. This is not my own work.This is from a guy's profile in one of the dating sites that I am a member of. I did ask him for permission if I can put this story on my blog as I find the story trully sweet and romantic. and wishes people to read it.and ...
A. 9 January 2008: thanks so much for sharing that i hope it was true cos it's so sweet tell the guy he has talent and should pursue that talent xx... (read in full...)
Any way I can have an abortion without my parents' knowledge - at my age?
Q. Hey i just found out i pregnent... i cant tell my mum n dad they will KILL me, is there any way i can get rid of it with out them knowing???...
A. 8 January 2008: There is no possible way for you to have an abortion without your parents knowing as you are underage t is the doctors right to inform your parents, in future before you even have sex make sure you have protection to stop this happening again or you ... (read in full...)
Underage and having a relationship with a married man! - what do I do?
Q. Im in a relationship with a married man and i think im falling in love with him. I also really want to sleep with him but im under age by three years.please help and give me some advice on what to do....
A. 7 January 2008: U R 13 YRS OLD WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU PLAYING AT?!!! I really don't know what to say to this i'm completly digusted by it. Get out of this relationship now and do it TODAY this man is dangerous and he has a name for what he is and that is a ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to wait til your 18 to lose your virginity or do anything sexual?
Q. is it ok to wait til your 18 or so or at uni to lose your virginity or do anything sexual (other than kissing)? p.s i live in uk where everyone has sex before 16 [rolls eyes] id like everyones personal oipinions please, also not "don't be press...
A. 7 January 2008: I think it depends on the person hun, but i think quite a few people wait until they are married depending on their religion i had intercourse at a young and fell pregnant at 15 but if i could i would turn the clock back and wish i had waited but i ... (read in full...)
I am becoming interested in him as he is nice and respectful, but is he too old for me?
Q. Hello, I'm 15 years old, and a 19 years old guy likes me. He's really nice and respectful. I'm becoming interested in him, But I'm thinking it's not right of me. Is this guy too old? [Added] Hello, I've posted a question here recently, But another ...
A. 6 January 2008: As long as you don't have intercourse then no u will not get into trouble the age gap aint massive but other people may have opions on that but hey i mean i'm 19 and going out with a 35 yr old and have been doing so for the last 2 yrs. Hold ur head ... (read in full...)
I neglected my social life, taking care of my baby - now I feel as if the neighbourhood hates me, lonely and fat. Is it wrong to stay 8 hours online continuously?
Q. I am a stay at home mom with a 9 mo. old and I am due to have another baby in March..so I really can't work and even if I did work I would be making about what daycare costs anyways and my husband works all different hours so I can't go get a ...
A. 6 January 2008: It sounds like ur suffering from post and pre natal depression but i'm no doctor so my advice is get ur self down the doctors and get a proper diagnosis, i know what it feels like having young children i had my lil boy when i was just 16 and he's 3 ... (read in full...)
He wants sex but I don't. What should I do?
Q. i have this great boyfriend.. and well one day i found out from friends that he was ready to have sex.. and i asked him about.. and he said it was true..and just to be funny with him i asked him for a condum..then next thing i know he comes up to ...
A. 5 January 2008: If you don't feel ready ur not but obviously he's not really listening to you sweetie carry on telling your not going to until UR ready not when everyone else tells u or tries to pressure. I don't know what state u live in but i'm going on a hunch ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and dating a 24 year old divorcee...How do I tell my Mom?
Q. hi, I'm dating a guy who is 24 and I'm 17 we started out friends at are job burger king and after I quit we still talk on the phone and everything he was having problems with his marriage and I was just there to help him until one day he came over ...
A. 4 January 2008: Well as you live in the states i'm really sure what the age limit is in ur state but if it's over 16 then u have nothing to worry about just sit ur mum down and explain to her his real ae and that u r sorry that u lied it sound like this man very ... (read in full...)
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