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writes: my 5 yr old son is like any average normal kid, but ppl always have an oppinion on him they say hes out of control and i dont disiplin him, i do. dont get me wrong he dosent listen to me somtimes he does on the important things but everyday normal stuff he blanks me somtimes and he can b naughty but wot 5 yr old carnt? am i not seeing my son for wot he is, or should i listen to other ppls oppinions on him plz help Reply to this Question |
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reader, Serene Katy +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Oh they all have bad days. Everyone else knows how to rear your child, and then your eyes would pop out when these know it alls do something like smoke in front of their own children, or give them rubbish to eat.
Make sure your child knows the ground rules. If he's naughty, he gets time out. You stick to your word. You must also stick to what you say if you promise a treat, don't let him down. Be there for him, teach him 'cuggles' and minding are important. They give back so much love if you open yourself to it. Speak with him, don't yell at him (as far as humanly possible). Some days, however, they will have off days (as do we) and even though you will ground them, and even though they may play on you, you may be better to pick your battles so they see love shining in you too. You know sometimes their foul moods are not their faults; what food have you given them? enough water? did they get enough sleep the night before? enough exercise? have they played with children their own age that day? are they stimulated? have they had enough fresh air? They don't know what's missing, they rely on their parents/minders to direct and care for them. So, you have a perfect 5 year old who needs love and guidance and needs his mother with him, please, please hear that. That's it, no apologies to anyone.
Lastly, your child has spirit, guide and nurture him on the right path, you may well have to be strict (live up to that) but never, ever break his wonderful spirit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): hello , its perfectley normal for a 5 year old to be like this ,just let it go over your head about what ppl say about him . at the end of the day he is your son and you know him better than any one.so do what you think is right.
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (31 July 2006):
 your probably not seeing him for what he is really like because you deep down you dont want to admit you've got a bit of a problem with him. my ex boyfriend is 18 and his mother still doesnt see him for what he is she believes anything he tells her and no matter what people tell her she still choses not to believe it.
for her its over she has a naughty son who she cant change and she'll never admit it you can do something about it, see what he is really like now and work on changeing his behaviour before its too late. it'll be hard now but it'l be alot harder 10 year down line if he gets kicked out of school and you cant do anything with him. it may seem a long way off but trust me it'll happen. yes 5year olds have the odd tantrum but blanking you everyday isnt good he needs to get some respect for you. x x
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