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writes: my daughter constantly twiddles her hair and it gets so knotty as her hair is natually curly you can omagine the difficulty in brushing any tips on getting her to stopthis habit Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): It sounds like this habit isn't destructive but upsetting to you.
I don't think you should feel like an unresponsive and caring mother if her hair looks in a disarray.
An age would indicate if this is just a temporary stage or if it will continue into adulthood.
Dr-Mel provides a good method of re-training your daughter to not play with her hair.
I agree with Wendy's approach by not making it a bigger issue than a simple annoying habit that drives you bazoo.
Just explain to your daughter why you would like her to try not playing with her hair because it makes it harder for you to brush her hair because of all the tangles she creates.
Then do your best to ask her once and thank her when she listens. Praise her when she is not playing with her hair and tell her how much you like her hair.
Perhaps get her a doll with long hair that she can play with.
Best of Luck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 July 2006):
 You don't mention how old she is but once she starts school I think the peer pressure will help her during the day. If she has long hair maybe a cute shorter bob would help.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 July 2006):
 Well this probably isnt going go help much, but well I still twiddle my hair and i'm 31! its a habit i picked up when young and its like a comforter, my grandad used to do it to the table cloth, it had little tassles that he couldnt resist twiddling, it drove my nan barmy! but i guess that where i get it from! I notice alot that i do it when i watch tv or read a book, sometimes i can be doing it and not know! I think i like the feel of it as runs through my fingers especially if its just washed as its silky then, but well my hair does also get knotted from time to time.. So well all i can suggest is maybe a leave in condtioner to help with the tangles. She may grow out of it even though i didnt! But the more you draw attention to it the more shes likely to do it... my niece was doing it the other day shes 7 and my sis told her to stop, but she did it all the more, so maybe dont draw attention to it and see how goes. Maybe even give her somethign else to twiddle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): The best way to stop your daughter from this habbit is to get an empty jar and explain to her that if she does not twiddle with her hair in a certain amount of time in hour(s) you will put a treat in the jar but if she does twiddle with her hair, you will take a treat out. Give her the jar at the end of the day and count all the treats with her, then tell her she can have the treats.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): It depends on the age range your daughter is in. if she is at an age where she can understand what you are saying then you can convince her by persuading her. In the room she sleeps in or the room shes in the most, put an empty jar on a shelf or a table. And explain to her that if she does not twist her hair in the maximum 3 hours (or you can make up the amount) she will get a treat in the jar. If she twiddles with her hair she will get a treat taken out. At the end of the day, count up all the treats and then give her her treats and explain to her - she gets all those treats because she did not twiddle with her hair.
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