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writes: We have a 3 year old little girl. Me and my husband often have conflicts at home and sometimes we raise our voices and be irritable towards each other.How is it affecting her? Reply to this Question |
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reader, ThePixie +, writes (11 July 2006):
 Hi,
Well yes arguing so your child can hear is distressing for the child. However i think as long as the arguments are just that and not violent or filled with death threats etc (you know what I mean), than it's much healthier for a child to see mummy and daddy get very annoyed with each other and then make up and be friends again. It's better than having lots of tension the child will pick up on anyway and trying to hide it. The important thing is for your daughter to know that you can disagree with someone, have a little argument and be okay with each other. Tell her this, a three year old will understand the basic gist.
If the arguments are nasty, that's definitley not good and can result in all sorts of unwanted behaviour from tantrums, extra clingyness or withdrawn behaviour, as well as imitating what they say and see. You will know if this is the case by looking at your child and their behaviour. In which case you and your husband should sit down and discuss ways to stop the behaviour in front of your daughter - even if it means going in another room or one of you leaving the house for a few minutes or hours to calm down.
Good luck.
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reader, sammie +, writes (6 July 2006):
 hya hunni well if the little girl is around you arguing quite alot or even if she can hear it there is a chance that it can worry here and maybe frighten her abit but also she may grow up thinking that that is how we are suposed to live shouting at the people we love witch can make her abit of a problem i no this seems really harsh but this is just what i have seen happen with my friends little boy i always say try your best not to do it in front of her or when she can hear if you can just save it and chat about it later hope this helps you hunni samx
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