A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:my 15 year old son has suddenly turned from a sweet caring boy to a selfish little toad. im constantly having a go at him and i dont like the way our relationship is getting more distant every week. please help? Reply to this Question |
Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): ok he is in a stage where he wants to rebel himself and stuff like that.
the best you can do is to respect him, because in his age he feels like an adult and feels like he can take his own desicions... etc.
soo respect is very important
the next thing is comunication
you need to learn to talk and to listen to your son, because thats what he needs! to feel loved .
you need to give him his space
but he needs to feel that when he wants to talk to someone he can always trust you.
good luck and hope you improve that relationship.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): ahhh the grumpy teenager , certainly brings back memories!
your son is growing into a man and has hormones all over the place. teenagers sometimes dont know how to express themselves and it comes out all wrong. they know what they mean - but its like alien language to us.
rowing can get out of hand with teenagers sometimes and this can lead to a repetitive type of communication.
what we tried was a feather - yes a feather. who ever had the feather was allowed to speak and the other listened. no shouting or you lost the feather. may sound cheesy but it works for us when there are issues that need resolving.
and after the feather chat ( or what ever you choose to use)- always finish with a hug if you can.
your son also needs to know that you are there to help and protect him so if he has any worries then you are there any time of day. if that means you have to get a male to listen (could be male stuff and he feel embarrased) then do that also.
...............................
|