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writes: How can I stop my 2 and a half year old son from hitting his 6 year old sister? She never hits back, but if she sits on the floor, he stands on her or whacks her over the head, or pulls her hair. It's the same if she is trying to put her shoes on, or does anything where she is positioned at his height or lower. He thinks its hilarious, even when she cries with pain and/or outrage. We have tried everything. Please can anyone help? I know that it is a phase, but he really hurts her and I want to teach him that it is wrong. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): Tell your daughter to say no that is naughty. Make sure she tells him NO! Once she has done that, you then go up to your child, and tell him the same NO THAT IS NAUGHTY YOU MUST NOT DO THAT.
If he persists to do it, follow the above but this time take your child away from your daughter and place him on your bottom step of your stairs. (or another place where he is not in the same room as anyone) Point to the step and tell him, This is the naughty step and because he has been naughty he has to sit and the naughty step. Make your son sit on this step. this is going to be hard work but he will stop trust me he will.
Make your son sit on that step for 1 minute. No longer no less.
The next time he does this to your daughter follow the above steps, this time increase the 1 minute to 1 minute and 30 seconds. stay with him and make sure he sits on the step.
keep following the above steps. on the 3 time, you are now going to leave your son on that naughty step for 2 minutes, but this time you are going to leave him on that step. When he tries to get up, go back there tell him no, he has been naughty and when he is naughty he has to sit on the naughty step. BE PERSISTANT with him. it is going to be really hard to begin with not to want to just give in and let him get up and walk about, you must follow your actions through to the end.
Eventually you will get to 3 minutes of him sitting on the naughty step. and you will have to no doubt keep putting back onto the naughty step when you walk away, but after only 5 days he will sit on that naughty step longer and longer and you will be able to walk away with him sitting there.
At the end of each time you have put him on the naughty step. you must say to him, that was naughty wasnt it, you must not do that again.
Most people laugh at this way of doing things, but this really does work, some kids can get on striaght away and it takes less than 5 days to stop what their child is doing, some are more adiament and can take up to 2 wks. But children do not like being naughty and do not like to be branded out of the way and that is why it works. Please just try it.
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