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writes: BEDTIME: I am having problems getting my son who is 22mths to sleep in his own bed, he has slept in our bed for so long now and I can not get him to stay in his. Can anyone help me please? Reply to this Question
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reader, mandi +, writes (4 November 2006):
i have this problem also, its getting better though. when i first started getting him back into his own bed, i brought a stair gate for his room door, when i took him to bed i gave cuddles and walked out, he did scream the house down but i ignored him for 5 mins then went back and put him in bed. after so long he gave up and went to sleep. it got easier each night.
he now goes to sleep in his own bed but seems to end up in our bed about 5 in the morning, which i dont mind as much, better than all night.
good luck!!! i keep you posted if i manage all night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006): ok this is a tough one, its not going to be easy at first but its very important that you follow these intrctions to the letter or it just wont work.
Do your usual routine before bed put him down in his bed read a story then say "ok night night, time for bed".
and walk out the room, (it does help if you have a baby gate then you know that they are still safe if they get up in the night).
now its very likely that he will jump straight out of bed and chase you to the door when you leave, but you need to take him back to bed and say calmly and quietly " its bedtime".
then walk out, he will do it a second time take him back and say "bedtime".
If he does it a third time , which he will, take him bak to bed and say nothing at all, just tuck him him lovingly and walk straight out.
NOW!. he is likey to do this ALOT!! the first night, but as long as you keep your cool and dont say a word it should start to work.
I know its hard to see them crying and moaning but its all safe and under control, dont be tempted to give in and start talkin to him it just undoes all work you have done upto that point.
Ok so to recap:
1. put him to bed, read a book,"night night its bedtime darling"
2. 1st time he gets out of bed take him back say "its bedtime"
3. 2nd time do the same but say "bedtime", as long as you keep your cool and dont show how stressed you are it will work
4. the 3rd time and onwards he does it just take him back to bed calmly and queitly and say nothing then walk out.
I suggest you take it in turns if you have a partner you need to show a united front on this one.
It takes about a week or two but it does work I had to do the same with my boy and he is as good as gold now.
ok good luck, send me an email if you need more advice I'll do all I can to help.
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reader, becky31 +, writes (3 November 2006):
Ok this is really common place problem and you are by no means on your own there are some inexpensive books on the market that will give you several ways of dealing with your specific sleep problem really worth the investment but don't think that the more you spend the better the book as they all give pretty much the same advice it worked for me stay strong and stick to your guns keep putting him back kiss him good night after two weeks he will almost definatly be sleeping through as he is using you as his security blanket, new duvet set bought as a treat that he choses himself can be a good start, and star charts with rewards really do work and dont have to involve spending money you can promise trip to park or another favorite activity.
But don't worry if it takes time how many thirteen year olds do you know that want to sleep in with their mum and dad trust me it may feel like it will never happen but it will. good luck becky
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