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writes: I am a single mum, my little boy is 4. In the past 2 years i have had 3 boyfreinds and my little boy had a close relationship with two of them. I am concerned about how the relationships ending will affect my little boy,. Any thoughts or experiences similar ? Reply to this Question |
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reader, chellxx +, writes (5 October 2006):
 While the break up of any relationship will have an effect on him, it should not effect him too much in the long run. As long as you are givin him a stable and loving home life and he feels secure he will be ok.
as hard as it is try not to show your son how upset you are and if he says he misses them then just say yes i miss them to and let him no that it is ok to feel sad, also try not to bad mouth your ex partners as this will confuse him and could cause him to bad mouth new partners or new people he meets in the furture obviously try not to introduce men to him straight away not untill your sure yourself.
But above all let him no that you love him more than anyone in the world and he is the most important person to you.
Ihope this helps
Chellxx
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reader, zeecat +, writes (30 September 2006):
zeecat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate your answer but i do not think it is a very relistic or balanced answer. Children need to realise that sometimes people will come onto and out of their lives. I think that whilst your reply has the right idea it is difficult to put into place in the normal world.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Children will bond to the adults brought into their lives. They do not understand why the adults leave them when relationships break-up.
Your son can develop abandonment issues with men and later in life have a desire to cling to men.
The best thing you can do is not introduce your boyfriends to your son, do not bring them home, do not let him bond with them, until marriage is on the table and your seriously considering it.
Then he might fight against it as a natural defense mechanism to protect himself from another abandonment.
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reader, fallenman  +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Between 0 and 7 years child form the core of their personality and primary role models. Instability in your relationships could be learnt as the norm by your son.
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