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writes: im 14 and have just found out i am 9 weeks pregnant.i cant tell my mam because she will kill me and need advise im so scared and dont no what to do please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, becky31 +, writes (3 November 2006):
.Ok so you are probably scared, but this is something that won't go away honey belive me, you need help and no one should have to make this kind of choice alone.
There are way more options than you might think it doesn't just have to be the two obvious ones.
Ok can you talk to your mum?, forget the initial response believe me that wont last so long and believe me i am a strict mum and might be a bit sad and maybe angry but my child would come first whatever she chose to do because we are women after all and these things happen its as simple as that this doesn't make you a bad person it could happen to anyone.
It needs to be someone who can help you their are lots of people out there for you, your doctor, practice nurse teacher and dont rule out social services they get a bad name but their main objective is to help you and they can offer practical advice and support.
But first step one at a time you have to tell someone you trust and you must do it soon.
Please don't be to scared you can still have a happy ending if you can find the strength to be brave.x
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reader, chellxx +, writes (25 October 2006):
 Have you someone you can trust ie a teacher or relative that you could tell and who could be with you and help you tell your mum,
She will probally go mad and be upset and disappionted but believe me she will calm down and probally be very supportive.
You will have to tell someone soon as you will need medical help and support in whatever you decide to do ,wether you are keeping the baby or decide to have a termination if you decide for a termination this will need to be done soon.
It is very scarey being pregnant at any age but you will find it easier when you tell your mum as that will be a relieve for you as keeping it a secret is making you feel worse, try to have things clear in your mind about what you want to do when you talk to your mum
i hope things work out for you if you need anymore help or advice just drop me a line
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): I hope you've managed to find some help by now, as I know that even a day can seem a lifetime in this situation.
There are organisations that can help you if you still need to talk to someone. Do a google search like I just did and you find help through places like the Brook Centres, free phone 0800 018 5023
This one http://www.ruthinking.co.uk/ has info about confidentiality and the law for under 16s, and may be worth a look. It also has a free phone 0800 28 29 30.
I've never used these but got them from a government website (The Teenage Pregnancy Unit Website) so they should be ok.
If you haven't already done it you must speak to someone- it won't just go away! Be brave!
All the best.
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reader, Jennie Wilson +, writes (23 October 2006):
Hi, My advise to you is to tell your Mum as soon as possible. It will be hard to tell her but she is the best person to help and support you. If you tell another member of the family they may tell you parents anyway as you are under the age of consent. You Mum loves you and although she may be upset at first I'm sure she would not want you to go through this on your own. Making a decision as whether or not to have a child is huge and you need your Mum to help you decide as she will give you an adults perspective. I know you are scared and don't know what to do but there is no love like a mothers love for there child so trust your Mum to help you! Keep strong. Jen
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): Your mum might find out sooner or later so if you can't tell your mum then tell another relative that you can trust. You'll have to let someone know soon because you'll probably be showing soon and you'll need soneone with you whatever you decide to do. Have an abortion or give birth. Your mum might get mad but she will probably be supportive.
Good luck whatever you choose to do x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): b4 u decide wot to do u need 2 look at all of ur options. wheather u r going 2 keep the baby or not. if u r going 2 keep it u r going 2 need all the support u can get, so tell ur mum. obviously she wont b happy about it but she will have 2 learn to live with it and most likely will b there 2 guide u all the way. so dnt b scared do wot is rite 4 u not 2 plz anyone else.
best of luckxx
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