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writes:Hi ive got a problem with my 14 month old daughter. she has always been such a happy we girl until about 3 months ago. she is very clingy. and by clingy i mean i cannot put her down at any time. if anyone else comes into the room she screams or if they say hi to her in her buggy she screams. it is as if she is scared of something. she sleeps well so no complaints there but i cant even brush my teeth without leaving her on her own. i hav tried just leaving her to cry but she gets hysterical and sobs her wee heart out. this is starting to really stress me out as i cant have 2 minutes to myself, any suggestions would be helpfull, thanks Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): Hi babe oh motherhood how great it is!!
u did not say if it is your first child or not but it does not matter as my second child was the same, my sister baby sat once and she said "NEVER EVER AGAIN" even my husband had to wear my dressing gown if i went out so he would smell like me.
Some times in the early months with out us even knowing it we let off little vibes & our little darlings pick up on every one!! maybe u felt no one else could hold,look after he/she better than u so now when u need that breck it is "NO mummy only YOU!".
But they do grow out of it you just need to leave the baby for even just 5 mins at a time with someone u trust & take time out it will help you and there is nothing wrong with a baby crying as long as there is no health problems.
good luck babe x
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reader, fairydust +, writes (16 May 2007):
 hi, my daughter was just like your daughter(she still is when shes ill) i found that taking her to parent and toddler groups and other activitys in my area has really helped because she has children her own age to play with and she is more use to being around other people. like i say she still has her moments but she has changed dramaticly and i get a bit of piece now.
i hope i was of some help to you good luck
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reader, sarahp +, writes (14 May 2007):
Hi,Dont worry your not the only one, My daughter is 14 months old and I cannot leave her alone for a minute before she cries. I have to take her absolutely everywhere I go even to the loo! I am pregnant again with number 5 and I am dreading having to go to hospital and leave her. My daughter often works herself up to such a pitch she makes herself vomit! I am at my wits end with her at times and it is worse when she is not well. My first suffered with clingyness for 18 months so I know I have some way to go.
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reader, karley +, writes (14 May 2007):
my son has gone throught this and still is but he is alot easier to handle. you have to be tough if she wants picking up for no reason you dontif she cries and sreams or performs put her in a safe place like a play pen and leave her. make it clear that she has to calm down untill you will pick her up. tell her you love her but you need to do mommy things. if you need to clean the house put her in her high chair and give her some of her favorite foods to keep her distracted. put on music and sing to it as you move around the various rooms to reassure her that your still around. get her used to you being in a nother room. walk out wait a minute and pop your head around the door and play boo for a while.. the next thing to do is to introduce her to other children. invite a couple of friends who have children of similar ages to her to your house for a play date.all sit inthe same room put plenty of toys on the floor and see what happens encourage her to play and share. have a couple of play dates untill you try my next suggestion. while she is reassured and is happy to play with other children, try standing up and walking out the room to get a drink or some biscuits she may kick up but just walk back in to the room tell her it's okay keep doing this and eventually she wont even care that you've left the room. but don't pick her up this will undo all your hard work, just kneel down give her a cuddle and get her playing again. it is a very hard process and may take a while, there will be tears mainly from you as you will be exhuasted but i promise you it will be worth it. just remember plenty of toys to keep her distracted and hopefully you might have five mins to yourself. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): hi
at around ten months babies develop stranger fear and also want to be around their parent or carer. they want to be able to see them and hear them.
it is normal that your baby is becoming distressed and it means you have a strong bond with your baby.
it can be draining though emotionally for the parent and it is important for you to try and get some time to yourself if possible.
soem babies are more clingy.
give lots of cuddles and kisses , talk to your baby while you go out the room ..make it a game ...go out for a second then pop your head around...keep doing this makiing it longer inbetwween .
give your baby something to distract them while you are not their
it will get easier...you are both important so make sure you both meet your own needs.
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