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writes: Have have a 32 month old daughter and a nephew of 26 months. Whenever they are together all they do is fight! He is one of 3 with busy mom...mine is only child who attends nursery 2 mornings and is told "no" etc when she does wrong. It is getting to the stage where I have to avoid the family because he just seems to set her off! What can we do? Reply to this Question
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reader, immuno +, writes (5 August 2006):
 Oops, oops my answer hasn’t popped up yet because I wasn’t logged in, so here I go again. The age differences between the two do not seem that great at first but I baby-sit for a group of children who are 6 months apart. The problems that I see (that are perfectly normal) is mainly due to sharing issues. Between 2 and three children are just learning about playing together and sharing. My 3 year old little girl has mastered the art. My 2 year olds on the other hand have not. The 2 year olds grab anything from the 3 year old that they can. The 2 year olds also have not learned to play together as of yet the 3 year old is trying to teach them (it is extremely cute). My 3 year old gets her feelings hurt a lot and I spend most of my day saying "no" to the 2 year olds and trying to explain to the 3 year that they really don’t understand yet that just taking things away is wrong. If this is the kind of thing that is happening-relax- its normal. As long as they are not causing each other physical harm everything should be o.k.. Your relatives should understand that there is no real reasoning with a 2 year old, all you can do is continue guiding them in the right direction.
Good luck, deep breathe and laugh!!
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reader, immuno +, writes (5 August 2006):
Oops forgot to log in before, I'm immuno. I am the one who baby sits for the "circus" I wrote about below :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): Hello, I have a 29 month old and also baby sit for two other 29 month olds and a 3 year old. I am amazed at the differences in the personalities between the two ages. The 2 year olds do not really understand how to play together yet and they do not realize that just taking things away from each other is not o.k. but it is a normal thing for their age thats how they learn. The 3 year old has started to play with others and is learning to share and it is difficult to keep her feelings from being hurt when the others take things away without asking. This causes a lot of arguments and fights between the two groups. The only thing I can do is be a mediator and make sure that they do not physically hurt each other. I know as they all get a little older it will get better. Anyone who is around children knows that there is no reasoning with them at this age and should understand. I hope this helps, take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): Well, firstly have a chat with the parent of your nephew about the issue, if you think they are too easy going with him or not disciplining him enough, make your opinion clear and let them know what effect this is having on your own child. If that fails, you can just giude your nephew yourself by traeting him like he was your own child. By that, I mean telling him off when he is doing something he shouldn't be. I am having the same problem with my own neice, and I am letting her know the difference between right and wrong. It can be hard work, but with enough time, it will start to rub off.
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