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writes: I get on exceptionally with my partner's children except the eldest son, mind you I have treated him exactly the same way as I have treated all my partners children. It has now gotten to the point where he refuses to have anything to do with his father ( my partner) nor will he allow my partner to see or speak to his grandchildren. When we asked him what his problem was concerning myself his only response was "I hate her." he then went on to say that my partner is welcome in his home but he is to leave me behind. I have tried speaking to the son and was basically told to ......well I wont say what he told me to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, cooks +, writes (14 September 2006):
was your partners soon very close to his mother, your partners ex wife? i wouldnt put your partner in the middle,(blud is thicker than water as they say) i would let him go, grit your teeth,do something with the other kids, or spole yourself, so you dont sit at home and brood about the visit, but ask your partner to try and find out the reason he hates you, (im sure its not because you are an awful person), i feel his son has a few issues that are solely to do with him, and then hopefully over time your partner can bat in your corner & make him see your no threat to whatever reasons he may have, these things take time. but until your son and partner talk nothing will change, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): maybe he has a few issues him self and you happen to be the person he takes it all out on (easy target) try telling him/her that you are fed up with his/her attitude towards you and that it is unfair to him/her and yourself and that you would like to get to know him/her and try to build a freindship and that you do not wish to be the enemy and it is upsetting you that he/she continues to hate you for no reason. try enviting the whole him/her around for a cuppa and tell him that if he talks to you about why he hates you so much that maybe you both could try to understand what is happening
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Is there some reason you don't want your partner to visit his son without you? Couldn't you go shopping or to the movies while he sees his grandkids? You aren't going to make any headway with this son, at least not for near future. Why can't your partner at least enjoy his grandkids?
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reader, BlueSilver +, writes (11 September 2006):
Hi, how old is the eldest son? and ages and genders of others?
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