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writes: hi there . i have been divorced now for 2 years and have had my son every tue and thurs for tea. i also have him to sleep every fri night and every other sat. because something has happened and she didnt get her own way she has now told me that i cant have him in the week anymore. please can someone tell me if there is any thing i can do???? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): Hi
Me again, might also help to contact your local CAFCASS officer, they are trained in dealing with child related problems and in most cases where children are involved there will be a CAFCASS officer in court and in my experience the judge takes their views very seriously so it will do no harm to ask their advise from the start, ask the court for their contact detials they will be able to help.
The courts seem to see it as the childs right to know, see and be bought up by both parents these days, yes its much better, I think that your key phrase should be that you believe that "your child is bieng weaned off you" this is directly opposite to your childs rights.
Set things in motion and then say to your ex that if you cant sort this out amicably then you will have to take this action, be prepared to backtrack if she is willing to start talking as it is always better to try and do it amicably however dont be fobbed off, you need a signed agreement that can be adjusted with both of your consents, this is where the mediation service might help, rather than costing a fortune with solicitors, however if you are like me where my child is concerned, it is money well spent.
Good luck will keep watching
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reader, dannic +, writes (25 November 2006):
dannic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advise, i have phoned the courts and they are gonna send me out the papers to apply for contact. im glad to hear that the courts are finally starting to take into account the farthers aswell.
thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): Hi
Going through a divorce myself right now and isn't it great when your ex seems to think that she has the right to dictate contact, tell her it's notr right that she uses the child as a pawn and use the mediation service if she won't agree at all to a better agreement, maybe just mentioning that you want a third party involved in discussions will make her think twice, if that fails go for a contact order in court, tell you what, it's cheap at the price, I was only seeing my boy one weekend and an evening a fourtnight and now we have shared residency and equal contact, the courts these days are much better at putting both parents as equals and see it as the childs right to see as much as they can of both parents, its no longer just the mothers right to dictate contact and if you can prove that she is using him as a pawn then that is where they will step in quickly to prevent your child bieng weaned off you,
good luck, I will keep an eye on your post and help where i can.
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